- Grace and Peace Family! I writing this note because I feel that one of the things women are lacking in their lives, besides a father, is a Big Brother. A Big Brother is a man who assumes the role of an older brother, as by providing guidance or protection. That's what a lot of women are lacking in their lives,is a brother that is willing to be her personal body guard. So i decided to help you ladies out, by giving you some advice that I have shared with my own sister, cousins, friends, etc about men. Because the best advice and counsel you can get about men is from a Man. So here goes nothing, It is my prayer that you get something out of this note. Alot of it will be entertaining but everything I mention in this note I either have done myself or seen it done, so trust me its all real!!!! We keeps it real in my NOTES!!!
Cheating: Alot of women ask me all the time about Why do Men cheat? How do you know if he is Cheating? What are the signs that my man is cheating? Let me first tell you this Ladies, DISCLAIMER: IF YOU DON'T TRUST YOUR MAN, AND YOU THINK HE IS CHEATING, RIGHT AFTER YOU DONE READING THIS NOTE, CALL HIM AND BREAKUP WITH HIM! One sure way to get your man to cheat, that is if he is not Cheating already, is to nag him about if he is cheating on you everyday. Whether he is cheating or not Men hate having to explain themselves all the time, about the same situation. I have heard on numerous occasions men say "Man she questions me about cheating so much i might as well cheat!" Constant nagging, fighting and squabbling in the right ratios is the best recipe for a headache. Cheating with another woman is a common escape from this domestic hell, and works better than aspirin. Now the big reason a man cheats is just because! LOL! It's an uncontested fact that most men can't say "no" to sex. Although guys aren't constantly bombarded with sexual offers, sometimes an irresistible prospect presents itself and alot of men just don't have the will power to say NO! It's nothing personal, its nothing u did wrong, in his mind he doesn't love you less, it was just there and he took it! ANother reason men cheat, now some of you might get mad on this one, but this my NOTE!Women let us,women are quick to forgive men for their unfaithful behavior. Maybe it's their fear of being alone, or that women are simply the more merciful ones of the human species. Some women might even blame themselves for their men's infidelities, and take steps to improve their relationships. The fact that many women let their men get away with murder might compel them to double deal repeatedly. I'm a Christian, so i'm all for forgiveness, but some of you women forgive your man without making him earn his way back into your good graces, and when you let your man back' the relationship shouldn't start from were it left, I mean it should start from ground zero, Let him call you and ask you on dates like he use to, make him court you again. A man that is serious about getting his woman back will do anything he has too, to get her back. So make that dude work for your affection again. A couple of i'm sorry and some flowers, and making you think about the times he was good, then you women buckle up, and now you back on the same train to Cheatsville!!! A MAN Doesn't respect anything he didn't have to Work for or EARn! General Information: Ok Sisters, so you supposely found that one, you think you have found your Boaz. So what do you do you let him meet your girlfriends, so they can check him out, and give their opinion and approval of your Boaz. Wrong move sisters! LOL If this dude can fool you, then what makes you think he can't fool your girl friends. If you really want to know if this is a dude you need to mess with you need to take him around your guy friends, you need to take him around RAY Ray and Junebug your cousins, these are guys that can tell you the real deal about your man. Cause a wolf can spot another wolf! How your guy is with you is totally different than how he will be with other guys. Ladies when men get around each other we revert back to being little kids again. We start talking about what we use to do, who we use to do, where we use to do it, how we use to do it, what we have, what we had. Your guy friends can get more information on your guy in a hour, then you would be able to get in a year! And when we tell you that your dude is bogus, Ladies PLEAse believe that DUDE IS Bogus! LOL Now when dating your potential boo, it is important to establish the ground rules early, let the dude know upfront what you are looking for and what you can do without. Now that doesn't mean pull out a TLC Chili Check LIST, but let your potential mate know what you expect from him. While this doesn't mean that you should be rude or inconsiderate to your sweetie, it does mean that you should stand firm about things you believe in. Don't cave in to every whim for the sake of keeping your man around. In the end, it doesn't usually work anyway. Stand firm in your beliefs, and you'll maintain not only your integrity, but a healthy relationship. A man is only going to respect you if you respect yourself, Respect yourself Ladies, dont compromise who you are for anyone, let alone a dude! HAVE A LIFE! - Make sure that you've got something going on the side. No, not someone -something. Activities, friends, and hobbies are all important in keeping you sane. It's fine to do things together. But no one can stand to be around someone 24 hours a day without there being tension from time to time. The phrase "absence makes the heart grow fonder" has a huge ring of truth. Don't give up your total identity for a dude, be you, a good man wants you to be a well rounded individual that can help enhance his life, not cling on to his life. Now LAdies please know when a man asks HOW WAS YOUR DAY?" doesn't mean "How was your day?" This is where a sentence will do just fine! As insensitive as it sounds, when men ask this question, they typically do not want a play-by-play of your entire day. Quite frankly, it's boring. And unless you have something specific you want to discuss with him, he really doesn't care about everything u did from the time u woke up until the time you standing in his face! LOL A young lady through my inbox says that she was having concerns about her man, that sometimes he goes quiet and doesn't want to talk. She askes him what is wrong and he says nothing is wrong. What's up with that? "NOTHING'S WRONG" means, nothing is wrong. - Sometimes that quiet man is simply having a quiet moment to himself. Women are the ones who ordinarily like to discuss and plan the details of almost everything. But men are more hands on. When they are quiet, it doesn't necessarily mean that something is wrong - only that they are thinking. Now there will be something wrong if you continue to ask him what is wrong! LOL! Please just tell us what you want! I'm be the first to admit that we don't do hints to well Ladies, Ask for what you want. Subtle hints do not work! Strong hints do not work! Obvious hints do not work! Just say it! You want to talk your man ear off about your day, but you want him to guess about what you want??? And the thing is we know what is up sometimes with you, but we want you to come out and say it. We know that there really is something wrong when we ask you what is wrong, and you say nothing!!! But we not going to rush into a argument with you! LOL So when u say nothing is wrong then we like cool i get to dodge this bullett today! LOL That's it for today.
Stay Tune for the NeXt note,where i answer some inbox question, Why MEn LIE? Why some men like Public display of Affection and some don't, And why is it hard for men to forgive?
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